Losing a dear high-school friend and a sorority sister shortly thereafter put so many things in perspective for me.
I thought about all the times I kept meaning to link up with my high-school friend, or how the years slipped by and my sorority sister and I never reconciled our friendship.
I wish we’d realized these few things before they left this earth.
It’s Not That Deep
The “reasons” why we didn’t reconnect don’t matter.
The petty things aren’t important. Someone ticked you off? Okay. Did your friend say or do something to offend you? Tell them (Matthew 18:15).
No relationship is perfect. You have to make up in your mind whether or not the other person means more than the issues that exist between you.
Give Grace
God forgave us – unconditionally – through Jesus Christ. He continues to extend grace to us daily and commands us to do the same for others (Colossians 3:13).
“Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” (Colossians 3:13)
Just Do It Already
This experience prompted me to check in with someone I was once close to, but somehow a wedge formed between us. I didn’t get the most warm and fuzzy response, but it was a start.
We make time for what we want. Whether you can’t seem to sync your busy schedules to catch up, or if you’re coming up with excuses in your head about why you need to keep pushing back that tough conversation – no more excuses.
You don’t want to look back at these years through regretful eyes. While the other person may not be ready to restore the relationship, do your part to communicate, apologize, make amends…and let God handle the rest.
The mourning process takes you through different emotions: shock, disbelief, and sadness. But don’t let regret be one of them.
How would you suggest someone go about making up for lost time? Let me hear from you!